It was in my class VIII physics class that I learned Newton's third law, which tells, "Every action has the equal and opposite reaction." So it means that whatever we do or think have equal and opposite reactions. My positive thoughts also have negative thoughts and my negative thoughts also have positive thoughts. Hence it is normal to have negative thoughts with positive thoughts. Why does the world always praise positivity when there is bound to have negativity also? Why is negativity untouchable when it is very much there within us. All our positive thoughts are supported by our negative thoughts. It is through our negativity that positivity evolves. It is through all frustrations new innovations and inventions happened. It is through the struggle that we have achieved success. Then why the emotions that are related to frustrations, struggle, negativity, loneliness, sadness, etc are said to be bad and our friends ask us to abstain from it.
So emotions are the truth. It will come. Always all the emotions cannot be positive. They will definitely be negative. Why people reject emotions? Why can't we think of supporting a person to deal with those emotions? Its the handling of emotions that make people hurt themselves or others. Hence listening to people's emotions and accepting it is something that we should learn. When we are affected by emotions that make us feel not so good then we should share openly without any shy or shame. The people who listen to others such emotions should listen to it rather than superimpose or suppress it with other emotions.
We as a friend should support others by just listening to their emotions. Listening is one of the biggest support that we can do to others who just want to share their emotions. Actually many a time people take a huge amount of courage to share their emotions with others (whom they think can provide them a patient hearing). Hence a human being we need to give patients hearing and go beyond by feeling empathetic. Many a time when people share their emotions we start judging them and supporting them with counter emotions thinking that they are negative and they need to be injected positive thoughts. In the process, we make those people more frustrated and live them more lonely.
In our universities and colleges, we are never taught how to listen. We are never exposed to the experience whereby listening things were resolved to a large extent. Our exposures are always such that strengthens our belief that it's only through lecturing or talking we can exhibit our talents and our expertise. Our socialization process should teach us to listen.
So emotions are the truth. It will come. Always all the emotions cannot be positive. They will definitely be negative. Why people reject emotions? Why can't we think of supporting a person to deal with those emotions? Its the handling of emotions that make people hurt themselves or others. Hence listening to people's emotions and accepting it is something that we should learn. When we are affected by emotions that make us feel not so good then we should share openly without any shy or shame. The people who listen to others such emotions should listen to it rather than superimpose or suppress it with other emotions.
We as a friend should support others by just listening to their emotions. Listening is one of the biggest support that we can do to others who just want to share their emotions. Actually many a time people take a huge amount of courage to share their emotions with others (whom they think can provide them a patient hearing). Hence a human being we need to give patients hearing and go beyond by feeling empathetic. Many a time when people share their emotions we start judging them and supporting them with counter emotions thinking that they are negative and they need to be injected positive thoughts. In the process, we make those people more frustrated and live them more lonely.
In our universities and colleges, we are never taught how to listen. We are never exposed to the experience whereby listening things were resolved to a large extent. Our exposures are always such that strengthens our belief that it's only through lecturing or talking we can exhibit our talents and our expertise. Our socialization process should teach us to listen.
2 comments:
Realy..well wrtten. you have written this article very Emotionally. after rading this article found three things. One is your action is very important. Another thing is sahring emotion and dealing with emotions and last one is listening. in all the three things trust is most important.
Listen to the ones that are even unspoken. How about that? Harder
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